Today I became overwhelmingly aware of the fact I seem to attract needy people, people who blither on and on and on about absolutely nothing, people who take more than they give. (None of my true friends fit this category, but if the shoe fits… buy it in every color!!)
People who are high maintenance flock to me. It has to be a flaw of my own doing. I am trying to figure it out. I just want friendships that are not fuss-budgety (yes I know that is not a word). I don’t want people to correct my every misspelling, dot my i’s and cross my t’s. Just let me BREATHE. If one more person says to me “What do you mean by that?”, “Why did you say that?”, or the best one yet “Ten years ago when I was getting married you told me __________________ what did you mean by that?”
If you were carrying a grudge against me all these years that is your problem. I am so tired of explaining myself. Just let me be me.
When I love someone ie. my friends, I do it wholeheartedly and there is no room for them to wonder what I meant by “this” or “that”. Give me the benefit of the doubt please!! Don’t automatically think that after a track record of having your best interest in mind that I have just had a bipolar moment and am now cruel and evil intentioned and want to cause you mental and emotional anguish. PUH-LEEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don’t have time for this! I am too busy enjoying life.
So, if I ever look at you cross-eyed, stick my tongue out or say something that offends you…go home, suck it up and find it in your heart to forgive me and get on with your life.
Life is wayyyyyyyyyyyyy to short to hold a grudge.
From this day forward, I have decided to have a check box form to interview any future friendships to make sure that they are not high maintenance.
If you would like some further reading this is an excellent site that I found:
http://rodesmith.com/2006/05/18/difficult-people-high-maintenance-relationhips-easily-hurt-cut-offs/
I guess it is more common than I thought!!!!
